I know I use this platform to tell you about my eating habits and silly adventures sometimes. It gets a bit frivolous, but that’s just real. We all have days with deeper thoughts than others and days with less thought in general.
Today, however, I want to be heard. I keep hearing so many arguments over the two hot button social issues of the week: abortion and DOMA, and it’s time to speak up.
I’m not a dogmatist. I don’t hold my values close because I’m afraid that someone will snatch them with a well-versed argument. I try to hold tightly to my most tested and true beliefs and to keep a looser rein on others, to keep an open mind but to have a filter. So, understand that when I say these things, I have thought and read about them quite a bit. They matter to me, as I’m sure they matter to you as well, even if we don’t agree.
Also, along that thread, if we don’t agree, I don’t hate you. I may think you’re annoying, (depending on how respectfully and deferentially give your opinions) but I most certainly do not hate you. Hate is not a godly perspective, however radically we may disagree. Love is the movement, and I think we could even live like it’s a verb (just in case you didn’t know, love is a verb).
Speaking of love and who can love who and all that, I believe that I am called to love people, and if I love people, how should I act towards them? I should look out not only for my own interests but also for the interests of others. I should have the mind of Christ Jesus (Philippians 2). I use the Bible as my moral compass, and I fall short of its expectations every day, but I’m journeying to a godly life where I live just a bit more like my Redeemer every step of the way. (just in case you were under the delusion that I’m perfect or something… I’ll bake you cookies later)
With that in mind, the Bible teaches (though many would dispute this) that homosexuality was not God’s intention for the world, that it wasn’t a way that He wanted His children to behave. From what I have read in the Bible, I’ve seen a God who points to homosexual relations and sees them as yet another way that we have fallen short. I don’t think the struggle is any worse or more offensive to God than my struggle with pride or jealousy. And just as pride keeps me from being all that God wants me to be and is destructive in my walk with Him and my relationship with the world around me, so is any sin.
Now, I ask you this, having seen where I come from: if I believe that homosexuality is not what God wants for people and keeps them from knowing Him rightly, would it be loving for me to vote gay marriage into law? Would it really be loving for me to stand for something that I think will harm someone else? I don’t really think that marriage should be legislated at all, personally. I’d rather just have my church declare that I (and whoever the lucky guy is) am married, because it’s a union in the sight of God and man.
That’s been churning around in my head for months now. Now, no matter the response, it’s out there.
If you’ve made it to this point in this long post, thanks for being here. I appreciate your audience and hope that you are trying to see my side of things (if, in fact, you are on another side), as I will try to see yours.
Can we talk about abortion now? This is a dialogue that hurts me so much, because it’s even further proof that we live in a fallen world. When the choice is between making a twelve year old girl who is pregnant because of incest keep her baby or kill it, I wonder if we can win. I’m not anti-woman. I’m not even anti-feminist.
I AM a woman. I work for women. I want a world where women have as many rights as men and are treated equally. I think that’s part of God’s kingdom, so when we say, “your kingdom come,” that’s included. I think that a world without cat-calls and nearly pornographic advertising and prostitution and devaluation of women would be ideal… paired with a world where we don’t abort our babies.
How can it be empowering to a woman to encourage her to kill? When all the genetic information is present at conception and the heartbeat begins at week 6 (http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/prenatal-care/PR00112), how can we doubt that human life is in the womb? I have read so many testimonies about women who regret their abortions, which is not something that most media will let you see, but it’s enough for me to understand that the choice is too much.
We were not meant to decide life and death. I don’t know what the legislative solution is to abortion when taking it completely off the table could make unprofessionally performed abortions even more common. I don’t know how to win, but it surely isn’t by building more Planned Parenthoods. It certainly isn’t by referring to babies as “a blob of tissue.” And I think that education about sex and pregnancy could definitely be helpful.
This is my soapbox. Welcome. I don’t have all the answers or solutions, and I don’t think that any one person does. I think that the more questions we ask, the better. I think that we need to stop yelling and start listening and discussing. I think that we need to talk about the issues that are underneath, the ones that are closer to home and hard to talk about.
Really, I just think we need Jesus.